Stop Hiding Your Kids Just To Attract Men – Tonto Dike Shares “The Secret Of A Single Mother’s Success” In An Enlightening Speech

Nollywood actress Tonto Dike regards herself as something of an authority on matters related to single mums, being a notorious “born one” herself.

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The actress whose marriage fell apart right before our eyes has allegedly moved on and is vigorously playing the role of mother and father to her son. She prepared a speech which she apparently read at the event at the African Leading Women Conference Awards 2019 held last night and was kind enough to share part of it with her followers.

The speech titled “The Secret Of A Single Mother’s Success” is primarily directed at single mums like herself. She wrote:

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“MY SPEECH
#The secret of a single mother’s success

Good day everyone, I am elated and privileged to stand here to give this brief but punchy speech about succeeding as a single mother. First of all, RISE ABOVE THE STIGMA.
In the society we find ourselves, there’s A stigmatization of single moms; they are seen as bitter, lonely and popularly associated with shame because the cultural norms has it that a woman’s with a failed marriage and kids is a failure to herself and to womanhood, but you must realize that you didn’t fail, the marriage or relationship might have failed, but you protected your sanity, and your peace was restored. 

It’s easy for anyone to wag their tongues and rattle, but you know what you weren’t through. All that matters is your peace and sanity. Society will always shame a woman for making decisions that serve her interest. Rise above the stigma. You are beautiful, confident, and strong.

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Many times, I hear people say that single moms are used items all in the bid to shame and make us feel that we’d never have a partner, and some single mothers hide their kids just to attract men. It is ridiculous. You have to own your identity a single mother, you are not a used item, you are a human being and your worth cannot be reduced to your failed marriage or the fact that you have a child outside wedlock. Wasn’t it a man that impregnated you?

Secondly, DO NOT RAISE YOUR CHILDREN WITH RESENTMENT. Do not direct whatever happened between you and your ex partner to your children. Let them enjoy their innocence and grow up; you can open up to them when they are old enough to handle it but till then, train and groom them in a better way even. I mean, everything you hated in your spouse should be a motivation to make you groom them to be better. If your ex was abusive, groom your boys to never be abusive. If your ex was selfish, groom your boys to learn the place of compassion and selflessness.

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If your ex was lazy, groom your kids to be hardworking. Your children should a reflection of every good thing your ex lacked. I repeat, YOUR CHILDREN SHOULD BE A REFLECTION OF EVERY GOOD THING YOUR EX LACKED. 
To be continued…..”

Source: Africacelebrities.com